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    Pegasus2357Pegasus2357
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    So given the title of this group one has given this a lot of thought and decided that this needs to be here……
    How to start it, well I tried and failed to accurately write something appropriate and went back and checked on another site and decided this meets and exceeds anything I could come up with.
    So, hopefully Mazxx is okay with this, I have quoted what he initially penned…

    “With the sudden death of Charlotte Dawson, I hope it reminds us that people with mental illnesses don’t often conquer it but learn to live with it the best they can.
    She was very public about her battles with depression and mental issues and that was a brave thing to do, trying to shed some light on an issue a lot of us tend to ignore.
    There shouldn’t be a stigma attached to mental health issues as it no different from other health issues.
    She was bullied by trolls on twitter and the internet a few years back and this led to her being hospitalised. This did not stop her from talking about her issues.
    While we all enjoy taking the piss and being internet heroes from time to time. We should all remind ourselves that it can take the smallest thing to tip someone over the edge.
    Often it is people like Charlotte who are suffering.
    The people who are extroverted, funny, life of the party.
    This can just be a front to hide the pain the feel.
    I heard an interview with Billy Birmingham where he said he has battled depression for years and has been medicated for 20 years to cope with this.
    I think it is important to remember that on the internet when attacking people, it has made me have a good think about things.
    When someone is in a dark place it can be the tiniest thing that makes them crack.
    It’s extremely important for us to make sure our family and friends are ok. With most of us here being male, we can feel to embarrassed to admit we have a problem or just feel down.
    We must talk about this and remove the stigma.
    Let’s all ask the people close to us if everything is alright.
    Or if you feel down then talk to someone close to you, no one will judge you.
    In these hard times, financial, work related and family stresses are the most common causes of people becoming depressed or being tipped over the edge.”

    We have lost people important in our lives associated with the other place
    PJ/Chook Norris/L4G
    Gravy Golfer
    To name but two, if there are others I extend my apologies for missing them and request that their names be added to the list…

    All I ask is that if you are feeling shite don’t be afraid to ask for help either here, there, or anywhere, just ask…. it is not a sign of weakness it is a sign of taking the first step on what could be a long journey back to place in your mind when the simple day to day things once again become enjoyable and you can see clearly again….
    I’m no expert but have been there and done that with the black dog and to this day I am aware that it still lurks but I am far more confident taking steps to keep life on a level playing field and I do appreciate some of the little things in life, like when people ask R U OK, and I take the time and make the effort to ask others the same question…..
    Ask here if you want, I know from the list of names already here that there are others who have walked the same path as me, we are not experts but we are all prepared to listen and offer advice from our experiences with the black dog, and if we can help we will…

    Mike and the Mechanics can this be pinned as a starting point please….

    #6485
    MadamMadam
    Keymaster

    So given the title of this group one has given this a lot of thought and decided that this needs to be here……
    How to start it, well I tried and failed to accurately write something appropriate and went back and checked on another site and decided this meets and exceeds anything I could come up with.
    So, hopefully Mazxx is okay with this, I have quoted what he initially penned…

    “With the sudden death of Charlotte Dawson, I hope it reminds us that people with mental illnesses don’t often conquer it but learn to live with it the best they can.
    She was very public about her battles with depression and mental issues and that was a brave thing to do, trying to shed some light on an issue a lot of us tend to ignore.
    There shouldn’t be a stigma attached to mental health issues as it no different from other health issues.
    She was bullied by trolls on twitter and the internet a few years back and this led to her being hospitalised. This did not stop her from talking about her issues.
    While we all enjoy taking the piss and being internet heroes from time to time. We should all remind ourselves that it can take the smallest thing to tip someone over the edge.
    Often it is people like Charlotte who are suffering.
    The people who are extroverted, funny, life of the party.
    This can just be a front to hide the pain the feel.
    I heard an interview with Billy Birmingham where he said he has battled depression for years and has been medicated for 20 years to cope with this.
    I think it is important to remember that on the internet when attacking people, it has made me have a good think about things.
    When someone is in a dark place it can be the tiniest thing that makes them crack.
    It’s extremely important for us to make sure our family and friends are ok. With most of us here being male, we can feel to embarrassed to admit we have a problem or just feel down.
    We must talk about this and remove the stigma.
    Let’s all ask the people close to us if everything is alright.
    Or if you feel down then talk to someone close to you, no one will judge you.
    In these hard times, financial, work related and family stresses are the most common causes of people becoming depressed or being tipped over the edge.”

    We have lost people important in our lives associated with the other place
    PJ/Chook Norris/L4G
    Gravy Golfer
    To name but two, if there are others I extend my apologies for missing them and request that their names be added to the list…

    All I ask is that if you are feeling shite don’t be afraid to ask for help either here, there, or anywhere, just ask…. it is not a sign of weakness it is a sign of taking the first step on what could be a long journey back to place in your mind when the simple day to day things once again become enjoyable and you can see clearly again….
    I’m no expert but have been there and done that with the black dog and to this day I am aware that it still lurks but I am far more confident taking steps to keep life on a level playing field and I do appreciate some of the little things in life, like when people ask R U OK, and I take the time and make the effort to ask others the same question…..
    Ask here if you want, I know from the list of names already here that there are others who have walked the same path as me, we are not experts but we are all prepared to listen and offer advice from our experiences with the black dog, and if we can help we will…

    Mike and the Mechanics can this be pinned as a starting point please….

    Thanks Peg

    This post and thread had been on my mind when looking at a new community platform. Thanks for sharing.

    If what is discussed can help just one person then its all worth it.

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    #6487
    Hat_TrickHat_Trick
    Participant

    Thanks peg for continuing this conversation. Reading those words from Maxxon just remind us that you do not have to walk alone. No one does.

    Dr Bob's no. 1 fan

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    #6489
    WaxxoffWaxxoff
    Participant

    Thanks for bringing that thread across, Peg.

    Reading that old post of mine I have decided to join this new community.

    The last few years have been a real struggle for myself mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

    I’m not going into all the details but things almost got too much too deal with a few times. If it wasn’t for my family, well I don’t know if I’d be here.

    I have sat around feeling sorry for myself and felt angry at the world. That has done nothing to help myself or anyone around me.

    Apart from a few mental demons most of my problems are a direct result of my poor decisions and behavior.

    I have been living a lie for a while, mostly out of pride. The fear of being judged and feeling embarrassed by letting people know that I had financially lost everything, I had been through a court case, I had gone from losing almost 30kg to putting it all back on, I had been in a mental health clinic and to admit that I had lied and misled a lot of people.

    There are some people on here who are like family and offered me nothing but friendship and support, I have shlt all over some of those people. I am truly sorry to those I have hurt and deceived. I have reach out to some of you and hope overtime I can rebuild the bridges I have burned.

    For those I haven’t been in contact with I don’t have a mobile or Facebook at the moment.

    There have been some other hard times that were out of my control, like losing two of my closest friends to cancer and suicide.

    I am responsible for the decisions I have made and while I wish I could change the past that can’t happen.

    I’m going to keep on moving forward and improving myself as a person. I want to be happy (I am getting there) and I want to make right the wrongs I have done to those close too me.

    #6491
    iRON MiCKiRON MiCK
    Participant

    Hey Max
    You should get should be ok if you continue to own your past behaviour and focus on moving forward.
    We all make mistakes and few men have the courage to stand up and admit to it.
    I’d like to think I will get to see you again at Nationals next year or at the very least at Birdie Killers welcome dinner.

    NAGA

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    #6492
    MadamMadam
    Keymaster

    Thanks for bringing that thread across, Peg.

    Reading that old post of mine I have decided to join this new community.

    The last few years have been a real struggle for myself mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

    I’m not going into all the details but things almost got too much too deal with a few times. If it wasn’t for my family, well I don’t know if I’d be here.

    I have sat around feeling sorry for myself and felt angry at the world. That has done nothing to help myself or anyone around me.

    Apart from a few mental demons most of my problems are a direct result of my poor decisions and behavior.

    I have been living a lie for a while, mostly out of pride. The fear of being judged and feeling embarrassed by letting people know that I had financially lost everything, I had been through a court case, I had gone from losing almost 30kg to putting it all back on, I had been in a mental health clinic and to admit that I had lied and misled a lot of people.

    There are some people on here who are like family and offered me nothing but friendship and support, I have shlt all over some of those people. I am truly sorry to those I have hurt and deceived. I have reach out to some of you and hope overtime I can rebuild the bridges I have burned.

    For those I haven’t been in contact with I don’t have a mobile or Facebook at the moment.

    There have been some other hard times that were out of my control, like losing two of my closest friends to cancer and suicide.

    I am responsible for the decisions I have made and while I wish I could change the past that can’t happen.

    I’m going to keep on moving forward and improving myself as a person. I want to be happy (I am getting there) and I want to make right the wrongs I have done to those close too me.

    Hey bro. Good to hear from you. All good from my perspective. New house, new rules and we are here to listen and help where we can.

    I hope you can make it to some of our events and help bring some good times to you and anyone who attend

    Cheers. M

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    #6497
    BarenskiBarenski
    Moderator

    Thanks for bringing that thread across, Peg.

    Reading that old post of mine I have decided to join this new community.

    The last few years have been a real struggle for myself mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

    I’m not going into all the details but things almost got too much too deal with a few times. If it wasn’t for my family, well I don’t know if I’d be here.

    I have sat around feeling sorry for myself and felt angry at the world. That has done nothing to help myself or anyone around me.

    Apart from a few mental demons most of my problems are a direct result of my poor decisions and behavior.

    I have been living a lie for a while, mostly out of pride. The fear of being judged and feeling embarrassed by letting people know that I had financially lost everything, I had been through a court case, I had gone from losing almost 30kg to putting it all back on, I had been in a mental health clinic and to admit that I had lied and misled a lot of people.

    There are some people on here who are like family and offered me nothing but friendship and support, I have shlt all over some of those people. I am truly sorry to those I have hurt and deceived. I have reach out to some of you and hope overtime I can rebuild the bridges I have burned.

    For those I haven’t been in contact with I don’t have a mobile or Facebook at the moment.

    There have been some other hard times that were out of my control, like losing two of my closest friends to cancer and suicide.

    I am responsible for the decisions I have made and while I wish I could change the past that can’t happen.

    I’m going to keep on moving forward and improving myself as a person. I want to be happy (I am getting there) and I want to make right the wrongs I have done to those close too me.

    ’bout time you resurfaced ya bastard…and I mean that sincerely.

    Answers the question as to why my messages haven’t been getting through.

    If you are up to hitting a golf ball I’m running a day at my place of employment, Elanora Country Club, on Monday November 25…would love to have a hit with you. Check out the details here:
    https://forums.iseekgolf.com/topic/65354-elanora-country-club-monday-november-25/

    This will be the final game under the ISG NSW banner, all games from next year will be from here, Live4Golf!
    In the meantime, take care and look after yourself…I hope the magnificent Sea Eagles supporter, Krystal, is well also.

    STILL FUCKING CAPTAIN...but not for much longer!!
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    In a past life:
    2012 National Championships...Inaugural Supreme Putting Champion
    2013 Brass Yacht Winner (Inaugural)
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    Signatures...when only the best will do...don't fall for cheap copies!

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    #6500
    CommishCommish
    Participant

    .

    Thanks for bringing that thread across, Peg.

    Reading that old post of mine I have decided to join this new community.

    The last few years have been a real struggle for myself mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

    I’m not going into all the details but things almost got too much too deal with a few times. If it wasn’t for my family, well I don’t know if I’d be here.

    I have sat around feeling sorry for myself and felt angry at the world. That has done nothing to help myself or anyone around me.

    Apart from a few mental demons most of my problems are a direct result of my poor decisions and behavior.

    I have been living a lie for a while, mostly out of pride. The fear of being judged and feeling embarrassed by letting people know that I had financially lost everything, I had been through a court case, I had gone from losing almost 30kg to putting it all back on, I had been in a mental health clinic and to admit that I had lied and misled a lot of people.

    There are some people on here who are like family and offered me nothing but friendship and support, I have shlt all over some of those people. I am truly sorry to those I have hurt and deceived. I have reach out to some of you and hope overtime I can rebuild the bridges I have burned.

    For those I haven’t been in contact with I don’t have a mobile or Facebook at the moment.

    There have been some other hard times that were out of my control, like losing two of my closest friends to cancer and suicide.

    I am responsible for the decisions I have made and while I wish I could change the past that can’t happen.

    I’m going to keep on moving forward and improving myself as a person. I want to be happy (I am getting there) and I want to make right the wrongs I have done to those close too me.

    You aint no Ned Kelly, Ben Hall or Captain Thunderbolt, but it takes a big man to “Stand and Deliver” as you have. You have taken the first 2 steps of 5 and for that I am proud of you. Continue on the current path you have chosen and the other 3 will fall into place. Just remember, you NEVER walk alone, just look around and someone will be there

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    #6501
    WeetbixWeetbix
    Participant

    Everyone makes mistakes Maxx

    And most people – if you are sincere in owning them and where appropriate making amends – will give you another chance

    As a man feeling like you have failed your family and especially those who depend on you very much is extremely difficult to own and be open about – you want to protect them from your mistakes

    I understand

    Good to see you back

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    #6502
    deegedeege
    Participant

    Obligatory “I don’t know who needs to hear this” but

    Maxx, good on you for being open and sharing what has been going on for you.

    I (thankfully) don’t struggle with the black dog, but Mr Deege does, which is bloody difficult.

    But I have a perspective from someone that sees people day in and day out that have stuffed things up financially and ended up in a bad situation – losing houses, losing money, making bad decisions. It’s not unrecoverable. It doesn’t automatically mean you lose everything. And it’s not the case that “everyone will know”. And almost universally from a legal and financial point of view, whoever you leave behind will be worse off if you are not around to help deal with the fall out.

    Best of luck to you Maxx and any others that might be going through the same sort of thing.

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    #6535
    Hat_TrickHat_Trick
    Participant

    Look after yourself big fella (or little fella)

    Thanks for bringing that thread across, Peg.

    Reading that old post of mine I have decided to join this new community.

    The last few years have been a real struggle for myself mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

    I’m not going into all the details but things almost got too much too deal with a few times. If it wasn’t for my family, well I don’t know if I’d be here.

    I have sat around feeling sorry for myself and felt angry at the world. That has done nothing to help myself or anyone around me.

    Apart from a few mental demons most of my problems are a direct result of my poor decisions and behavior.

    I have been living a lie for a while, mostly out of pride. The fear of being judged and feeling embarrassed by letting people know that I had financially lost everything, I had been through a court case, I had gone from losing almost 30kg to putting it all back on, I had been in a mental health clinic and to admit that I had lied and misled a lot of people.

    There are some people on here who are like family and offered me nothing but friendship and support, I have shlt all over some of those people. I am truly sorry to those I have hurt and deceived. I have reach out to some of you and hope overtime I can rebuild the bridges I have burned.

    For those I haven’t been in contact with I don’t have a mobile or Facebook at the moment.

    There have been some other hard times that were out of my control, like losing two of my closest friends to cancer and suicide.

    I am responsible for the decisions I have made and while I wish I could change the past that can’t happen.

    I’m going to keep on moving forward and improving myself as a person. I want to be happy (I am getting there) and I want to make right the wrongs I have done to those close too me.

    Dr Bob's no. 1 fan

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    #6547
    WaxxoffWaxxoff
    Participant

    Thanks Mick.

    Thanks Canadian Mick. Hope your new adventure goes well, I am sure it will.

    Hello BarnsEy, I haven’t had a mobile or been on FB since about May. I wasn’t ignoring any messages you may have sent. Elanora, pfffft. Been there, done that, overrated country track. I’ve got no chance of making the day, I wish I could. I think I still have your email, I’ll be in touch soon.

    Thanks Commish (Dad II) xoxo

    Hey Stiff Arms, How you been?

    Thanks for your wise words, Degee.

    Big/massive fella, Hat_Trick or Fat Karnt to most.

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 6 months ago by WaxxoffWaxxoff.
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    #6549
    BumpunRunBumpunRun
    Participant

    *too moist

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    #6551
    WaxxoffWaxxoff
    Participant

    Two moist.

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    #6552
    MadamMadam
    Keymaster

    Thanks Mick.

    Thanks Canadian Mick. Hope your new adventure goes well, I am sure it will.

    Hello BarnsEy, I haven’t had a mobile or been on FB since about May. I wasn’t ignoring any messages you may have sent. Elanora, pfffft. Been there, done that, overrated country track. I’ve got no chance of making the day, I wish I could. I think I still have your email, I’ll be in touch soon.

    Thanks Commish (Dad II) xoxo

    Hey Stiff Arms, How you been?

    Thanks for your wise words, Degee.

    Big/massive fella, Hat_Trick or Fat Karnt to most.

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 6 months ago by WaxxoffWaxxoff.

    Hopefully becomes our adventure and not just mine!

    Maybe see you at Nats next year? or PJ Day.

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